Parents or Celebs?!?!

What do celebrities mean to kids?

Ok, I understand teenagers may look to them for fashion etc. But, I've come across parents who seem to blame celebrities for being 'bad role models', if their children start smoking/drinking or even being rude. But, since when were celebrities meant to set standards for the way children act? Surely the biggest role models in a child's life, up to a certain age, is it's parents? That's just my opinion, though. I would like to hear what others think, if anything?

Fair enough celebrities are in the spotlight, but they are humans just like me and you and shouldnt be pressured into being what they are not. 

• By the time our kids are in middle school, they start to look to their peers for a sense of what’s socially acceptable or desirable.
• Kids choose public personas as role models, but there are no guarantees that a star will stick to a lifestyle that kids can look up to -- or that parents will approve of
• Kids have always looked to celebrities as role models. Now that kids are immersed in the 24/7 media world at younger and younger ages, these role models play an even bigger role. Everywhere kids turn, they see images and hear reports about their idols. And now that social sites like Twitter,Facebook, and YouTube allow celebrities a no-holds-barred way to communicate directly with their fans. Kids are often left alone to make sense of it all -- or they turn to their peers to figure out what’s happening. The results aren’t pretty

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Happy New Year


Ive been way to naughty and ive been away for far to long.....argh issues upon issues
1. i got demotivated
2. i forgot my password
3. i had alot going on with uni and alll



But thankfully i can say in 2011 im back :D thanks to my followers and those that read my blog, i hope you will continue to follow me on the journey

Hugs and Kisses xx

X FActor hmmmmm

As Katie Wassiel and Treyc Cohen were both in the bottom two, it depended on Cheryl Cole – mentor to both – being made to vote early and abstaining until her fellow judges’ verdicts. It was revealed that Cheryl Cole’s decision not to vote when two of her acts were up against each other to escape the axe had been planned all along. Dermot, 37, outraged viewers by then giving her no say. He said he was told: “If Cheryl decides to opt out we go to majority vote.” Host Dermot O’Leary reveals producers rehearsed Cheryl’s no vote in ad break TV sources confirm Treyc received THREE times more votes of support than Katie.

One of the most controversial X Factor shows ever was on Saturday night exposed as nothing more than a charade. Millions watched as Miss Cole dithered over whether to plump for Treyc Cohen or Katie Waissel. I feel sorry for Cheryl – she hasn’t done anything wrong in this at all. I have never on the show seen a mentor vote against one of their own acts UNLESS it means taking it to deadlock, so why do so many people blame Cheryl? If she’d have chosen Katie to stay because she likes her more, people would be even angrier claiming favouritism and racism!

Last year everyone was complaining that every week it went to deadlock so it was unfair; now everyone is complaining because it ISN’T going to deadlock?! The claim The X Factor is rigged is ridiculous – do you think Wagner would still be there if it was rigged? Simon would much rather see even someone as hated as Katie keep on in the competition rather than Wagner! The producers most likely asked Cheryl second for entertainment value. I doubt they’re particularly that bothered about Katie anyway as it’s unlikely she’s going to win, so why go to all this effort of “rigging” it? Also Katie really isn’t that terrible, she’s just facing the flak from people still hung up about that Gamu. She has a good voice and image.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for Cheryl to refuse to choose between her acts – imagine the backlash if she had cast a vote! Especially because she obviously does favour Katie to have picked her in her top 3 anyway (with Treyc being the wildcard) – I can’t believe she is being ridiculed like this just for showing some loyalty.

The producers should never have asked Cheryl to vote before Dannii and Louis. If they hadn’t, these debates would not be even taking place because Cheryl would have sent it to deadlock. They are who the blame should be pointed at. What are your thoughts on the show?

Changing your name after Marraige

So as Cheryl and Ashley's divorce is finalised many of you may have already known Cheryl will be keeping Ashley's  surname because of her solo career. The star has worked tirelessly i guess to promote herself as 'Cheryl Cole'.... her maiden name 'Tweedy' would just confuse things. But it wasn't until after her marriage to Ashley in 2006 that she became a real household name, known to millions as Cheryl Cole.

 

she is more famous now and her name is recognised. Tina Turner kept her name, I think she's earned it and has a right to keep it. but will almost certainly eventually become just known as 'Cheryl' a bit like Madonna. 

Celebrities are making a career choice when they decide on whether or not to 'take the name'. Would the Beckham 'brand' be as powerful if they were Victoria Adams and David Beckham? And when Ashley Cole was getting into trouble for alleged infidelities, did Cheryl's 'Mrs Cole' tattoo on the back of her neck make the perceived betrayal all the worse? The Mrs Beckhams and Coles of this world are independently rich and powerful within their own celebrity - but probably richer and more powerful as part of a celebrity unit. Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, meanwhile, has it both ways, while Jennifer Aniston kept hold of her maiden name during her ill-fated marriage.

The Question is would you change your surname when you get married?

If i was a man, there's no way I'd let my wife have a different last name than me. It shows a disunity in the family. When a man and a woman join, they become one. Period. That is your family. Biblically. Historically. Factually. If you aren't committed enough--so self-centered--as to keep separate last names, I see a marriage, if not heading for failure, built on a very poor foundation.
I guess I am pretty traditional in that regard since I definitely plan on taking his last name. Even when I was a little girl, I would doodle my name according to the last name of the boy I was in love with at the moment. I am looking forward to being Mrs. hubby. And I know (even though men will never admit it) taking man's last name is a HUGE deal for them, it's a proof of the commitment, same as engagement ring is for a woman. Women are insisting on proper engagement proposals, proper engagement rings, big weddings with families etc. as a proof of their love for us. We want them to relinquish their freedom, but we are unable to relinquish even our maiden name... If I wanted to keep my maiden name forever, I could as well keep on being single forever.   

There circumstance for example if you where a artist you can have your stage name professionally, but i would encourage woman to take their husbands last name legally.......Obviously in the Celebrity World..things are always different......

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Okay so i have been motivated to write a post tonight due to some facebook pictures ive seen , and its about my fellow ladies who feel the need to constantly show their assets in order to receive male attention.

Ill make it short and snappy.......

Ladies, you may dress seductively/sexy/raunchy and you will get ALL the attention from males.

But you will never earn and possess  true love of their hearts and their respect. 
A real man wants a woman with whom he can have the greatest of affection of heart and with whom he can really give his heart and respect. 
If you do not respect yourself, then how can a man respect you.

women need to realize that the standards they have for men can be turned back and used on them also. My point being that you must be what you want. If you want a strong confident man, a woman must be a strong confident woman. There is a book out by a woman stating that women's standards are getting out of hand and they are not getting married. The thing is that they have all the standards for men, but don't even think how they present themsleves. A woman can't win the heart of a man that meet all the standards if she isn't close to those standards herself and that usually includes respecting one's self in your dressing.

Not saying you should start dressing like Virgin Mary, buts lets be decent in our appearance and b respected for the beautfull woman that we are

And the funny thing these ladies are grown ass woman, like c'mon.....

done and dusted lol i told you it would be short x

DONT STONE MEEE pleaseeee!!!!

I know i said ii wouldnt leave you again.... i know i lied....iive just havent had any motivation, ive been lazy and useless for the past month or so :( ......
Im not promising that im 100% back...but i shall be more frequent than before.....

Y'all Missed Me????

For My Ladies

Ladies you are your partners helper!!! wow – that’s a hard statement to swallow for a woman of our generation! 





On Sunday after church i was talking to one of the ministers, she was rushing home to make dinner for her husband and i was like' if he is that hungry he will cook for himself since he is at home and he knows where u are'. I then got a lecture lol which i will break down to you.

when God created Eve, she was created to be a “helper suitable for him (Adam).” That is the wife’s purpose. It is quite plain in black and white. When you act as a “helper suitable for him , you are glorifying God.

In this generation it is  hard for women to sit back and simply help their partners – we are tempted to lead them, boss them, criticize them, expect them to take care of themselves and us, be tidy, and a helper to us. But in actuality – they are not our helpers – we are their helpers! God desires that they be servant leaders and the head of the house but whether they are actually doing that should make no difference as to our attitude of being their helper- hmmm deep!!!

So we have three things to consider:

1: Know your partner. 

Know his likes and dislikes and help him in the areas that he has asked for help. Pay attention to areas where you see he needs help.

2: Do not compare your relationship to your friends, sisters or even your pastors! 

Your partner is unique and you are unique; therefore, you have a unique relationship You must seek to please your partner and no one else.

3: Do not wait for your partner to “deserve” to be helped. 

We should do what is right no matter what others are doing around us . This is very hard lol especially when they have wronged us.

Our strength to be his helper must come from our walk with God. When we stop fighting what God has created us to be – we will find peace and blessing even in the midst of a difficult relationship. 

It is a hard pill to swallow at first because of pride but when you realize how natural it is, it’s a beautiful thing! When you realize this then everything starts falling into place, after all that was said and done i said to her this is all beautiful and makes sense but i cannot be a slave neither a dunce, best believe i got a spanking lol xx