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Wednesday 22 September 2010

Changing your name after Marraige

So as Cheryl and Ashley's divorce is finalised many of you may have already known Cheryl will be keeping Ashley's  surname because of her solo career. The star has worked tirelessly i guess to promote herself as 'Cheryl Cole'.... her maiden name 'Tweedy' would just confuse things. But it wasn't until after her marriage to Ashley in 2006 that she became a real household name, known to millions as Cheryl Cole.
 
she is more famous now and her name is recognised. Tina Turner kept her name, I think she's earned it and has a right to keep it. but will almost certainly eventually become just known as 'Cheryl' a bit like Madonna. 

Celebrities are making a career choice when they decide on whether or not to 'take the name'. Would the Beckham 'brand' be as powerful if they were Victoria Adams and David Beckham? And when Ashley Cole was getting into trouble for alleged infidelities, did Cheryl's 'Mrs Cole' tattoo on the back of her neck make the perceived betrayal all the worse? The Mrs Beckhams and Coles of this world are independently rich and powerful within their own celebrity - but probably richer and more powerful as part of a celebrity unit. Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, meanwhile, has it both ways, while Jennifer Aniston kept hold of her maiden name during her ill-fated marriage.
The Question is would you change your surname when you get married?
If i was a man, there's no way I'd let my wife have a different last name than me. It shows a disunity in the family. When a man and a woman join, they become one. Period. That is your family. Biblically. Historically. Factually. If you aren't committed enough--so self-centered--as to keep separate last names, I see a marriage, if not heading for failure, built on a very poor foundation.
I guess I am pretty traditional in that regard since I definitely plan on taking his last name. Even when I was a little girl, I would doodle my name according to the last name of the boy I was in love with at the moment. I am looking forward to being Mrs. hubby. And I know (even though men will never admit it) taking man's last name is a HUGE deal for them, it's a proof of the commitment, same as engagement ring is for a woman. Women are insisting on proper engagement proposals, proper engagement rings, big weddings with families etc. as a proof of their love for us. We want them to relinquish their freedom, but we are unable to relinquish even our maiden name... If I wanted to keep my maiden name forever, I could as well keep on being single forever.   
There circumstance for example if you where a artist you can have your stage name professionally, but i would encourage woman to take their husbands last name legally.......Obviously in the Celebrity World..things are always different......

4 comments:

Sumptuous said...

I'd love to keep my surname and add my hubby's. But i know it depends on d guy and it's not like i'm a celeb but if things go according to plan, i'm dating a guy who has d same middle name with my surname. wish me luck! Lol.

Unknown said...

*scratches head* 'Who the hell is Tweedy?' lol
Nice Blog

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